You are not who you were, you are so much more

I am sharing this poem with you because it speaks to me on many levels. It invites us to meet ourselves again with renewed curiosity. Letting go of the inner critic or in some cases inner cynic, by ‘greeting yourself arriving at your own door’. Sometimes the best personal growth starts with opening your eyes and mind to who you are the the potential you have of becoming the best version of you. Checking in with ourselves to notice how we have changed through time. You are not the person you were five years ago, let alone ten. As we journey through life, we are touched and changed by the good and bad we experience. A check in and update can be very therapeutic and rewarding.


The time will come

when, with elation,

you will greet yourself arriving

at your own door, in your own mirror,

and each will smile at the other’s welcome,

and say, sit here. Eat.

You will love again the stranger who was your self.

Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart

to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored

for another, who knows you by heart.

Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,

peel your own image from the mirror.

Sit. Feast on your life.

Derek Walcott

Checking in with yourself

In mindfulness practice, we are encouraged to have a gratitude attitude, to really notice and value those things in and around our lives. I often find that we miss the point of actually meeting ourselves and being grateful for who we are. So when we suspend the inner critic and open up to simply noticing our strengths, our weaknesses, our good intentions, our hopes and aspirations we can let go of our disappointments, we can begin to meet ourselves in a new light.

Let go of the Inner Critic

Unless we stop to notice how we have evolved, how life events have changed us, overtime we risk our self perception being out of date or self limiting. We risk not recognising how much we are capable of living through and rising out of. Or how much we need to just stop and take stock, appreciate and value ourselves and all we do.

It is this taking stock, pausing for a moment, to reconnect, to be in relationship with yourself that creates a strong foundation to personal growth. So break through the barrier of self judgment, or in the quiet moments, if your regrets and disappointments in life have become weapons against liking yourself. Suspend the war, and meet yourself once more. Do this wholeheartedly with an open mind.

Be free

My invitation to you is to make valuing yourself part of your personal growth. You will notice the benefits are renewed energy and greater self worth that comes from that. Remember if you need help with this reach out and get support.


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